Sometimes you may feel a little bit confused about whether your partner is telling you the truth or not. Learning a little bit of psychology will help you to know when your partner is lying or telling the truth. Do not think that is so obvious that people tell the truth. One of the ways a cheating partner uses to escape being caught is through lying to cover up their acts.
Basic signs to use to evaluate the truth from lies
Your Partner has a Tendency of leaving out Details
A liar will always leave out sensory details because they will not be able to remember when asked. They thrive well in giving out general information and incomplete details to avoid being caught. For example, he or she might not be able to tell you the exact time they left the office. Keeping it general helps them to be consistent with their story.
Blames it on Memory Loss
Liars will always use memory loss as an excuse. If they use this excuse, they are having a difficult moment in recalling what they initially told you. They do not want to get caught because they are more likely to give you a different story. If someone is telling you the truth, they will remember every detail and share it openly without giving you any excuses.
Frequent Statement Corrections
A liar is likely to backtrack often. They will always edit their story as they share. For example, “Her name was Mike, no it was Mickie, wait, maybe it was Mark.” If this kind of editing occurs many times, then your spouse is probably telling lies. If the story telling is smooth and does not have such edits, he or she is probably telling the truth.
Vague Stories that are short
The longer and detailed a story is, it is more likely that he or she is telling you the truth. If your partner gives you vague and short answers, they are taking their time to create a lie in mind and to figure out how to defend it. Lying is not easy because one has to be smart enough to cover up one lie with another.
Full of Contradictions and the Story does not add up
A person who is telling a lie will constantly contradict themselves and tell you stories that do not make sense. If you listen to the story and analyze and find out that most of the things your spouse said do not make sense, he or she told you lies. If the story is simple, clear and easy to follow, your spouse could be telling you the truth.
Taking more Time to Think
If your spouse is unsure of what to say after asking a question, they will take more time to think about what to tell you. Since they do not want to get caught up in the conversation, they will think hard and give you short answers. It is obvious that if someone is telling the truth, they will have an easy time to remember past events. When you ask your spouse where they have been and do not seem to give you a quick answer, he or she is about to tell you a lie.
Avoiding Eye Contact
It is obvious that someone who is telling a lie will not want to maintain an eye contact. They are not confident enough to tell the story because it is a lie. Also, they would not want you to notice that they are anxious. If your spouse maintains an eye contact when telling a story, he or she could probably be telling the truth.
They Stand Still
Standing still is a sign of a lie because your spouse is simply rehearsing a performance. They already have answers of what to tell in case you asked. Using non-verbal communication cues is a way to tell that someone is telling the truth. They will be free, not anxious and free to share. Do not confuse standing still from showing respect.
Use a lot of Filler Words and Repetition
If your spouse is telling the truth, the conversation will be clear with no or fewer filler words. A cheating spouse will use a lot of filler words to give them room to figure out a lie. They will also repeat themselves more often because they are not confident in what they are saying.
These tips will help you evaluate the truth from lies. If you realize your partner has been lying, you might want to hire Private Investigator Singapore to know more.